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Friday, June 1, 2012

Witless Relocation Program, A Blog

The other day a woman left a comment on my blog post about how she had written a post about her childhood and the abuses she suffered on her blog.  I immediately headed over to her blog and we have exchanged a few emails.

 I am amazed at how similar we are in terms of how we have dealt with the abuse.  I thought I was the only one who didn't talk, who didn't cry, who was happy all the time.  Actually, I never thought that, I didn't think anything because I didn't know I was coping, I just was. While I have not gotten into the specific of my abuse, she goes into graphic detail about what happened to her and she is asking for support.  I think she is so very, very brave. Except for my husband I have never talked about my childhood.  I have shared a little with friends here and there, but nothing much beyond it was abusive.  Maybe an alcoholic joke here or there. You all know how long it took me to tell you the whole story about that day in March.  Through her and others,  I am learning that I am not so unique.  That children who are severely abused hide things about emotions and feelings.  They get good at putting on a happy face and stuffing the pain so deep it can't be felt.  That is probably why I was able to hide the truth about my attack for so long.  If E hadn't decided at dinner to tell the whole story I might still be living that lie(The lie of the attack not my childhood.  My childhood does not haunt me).  Thank God I am not.  Thank God I saw her face and the pain and said, nope, no more, it's time to face what happened and deal.  It may have seemed like a long painful process, but it hasn't been that long.  There is healing in sharing and in support.

Her story is not an easy one to read.  Much like Garand Girl, her story is a hard pill to swallow, but I ask that you go anyway and that you offer her support and compassion.


At June 2, 2012 at 8:52 AM , Blogger Jacked Up Glock Mom said...

My mother was severly abused and mistreated as a child. She has held everything in all these years, and unfortuantly it has made her a bitter person. She has never openly faced her demons and has allowed it to run her life.Thus, she passed that abuse on to me and my siblings.. But, we raised up from those ashes and have learned to let it go, goal in life is to not be the way my mother was. I do love my mother..but I REFUSE to be like her. I work very hard at not allowing my childhood to control who I am now. My sister and I are each others therapist. I am going to check out her blog... thanks for posting this.

At June 2, 2012 at 12:01 PM , Blogger kymber said...

JUGM - i wouldn't be your friend if you were like your mother. let me state here and now that you are nothing like your mother. you are awesome...and i love your awesomeness!

your friend, JUGM,

At June 5, 2012 at 1:28 PM , Blogger agirlandhergun said...

I don't know you very well, but I am so happy to hear that you were able to break the cycle. It is an accomplishment that I am proud of too. My kids will not grow up feeling unloved or unwanted or confused about where they fit in the world. No guarantees they won't have "issues", but it won't be from abuse or neglect.


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