tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post2591872605125816371..comments2023-12-27T22:27:56.989-08:00Comments on A Girl and Her Gun: It Doesn't Matteragirlandhergunhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-82277155845389150782012-03-10T16:51:52.191-08:002012-03-10T16:51:52.191-08:00Thank you for your words of encouragement. Its ni...Thank you for your words of encouragement. Its nice to hear.<br /><br />I actually have never spoke out loud about my attack. I write about it, but I have never said the words. I do a little with my 8 year old, but mostly I do the listening with her.agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-84969596523742910882012-03-10T12:42:10.912-08:002012-03-10T12:42:10.912-08:00Amen.
Unlike the other animals, humans have to be...Amen.<br /><br />Unlike the other animals, humans have to be taught to fight. Were you EVER taught to fight? Or were you told to do otherwise?<br /><br />These lessons will be passed down to your daughter. THAT is the silver lining in all of this. As I've said before, you are a wonderful role model. What is past IS PAST. You've chosen the road to self knowledge, self defense, and leading a good life. Congratulations.<br /><br />A thought.....you have a blog.... I bet that you could do well speaking to different appropriate groups about this. Think about it.Cargosquidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15109858929179841075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-54887732398047505472012-03-10T11:47:46.287-08:002012-03-10T11:47:46.287-08:00Not crazy at ALL Dann!!! Lately I've been tal...Not crazy at ALL Dann!!! Lately I've been talking to my four kids age 10 to 15 about these things. FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT! The first few discussions I was met with EWWWWW and "I can't hurt someone like that!" UGH.... I've taught them compassion too well lol. So now it's compassion to those that deserve it and gouging eyeballs and such for those that deserve it ;-) I think the knowing how to deal with things replaces the paranoia with the calm of preparedness!Lisa C / Celtic Clicks Photographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14160825446100543236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-52288044445303308302012-03-10T03:56:03.569-08:002012-03-10T03:56:03.569-08:00Your right and I know that, but I guess I mean it ...Your right and I know that, but I guess I mean it should have least been a possibility in my mind. I think it's good for me to get a little feisty and worked up. I have been way to calm and collected...lol<br /><br />It's good to hear from someone that has experienced violence. I have a few other friedms that have experienced trauma and they have been sharing their journeys with me. So, so helpful!agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-85756983487364012792012-03-09T19:01:47.842-08:002012-03-09T19:01:47.842-08:00You can't know what other what else 'might...You can't know what other what else 'might' have been. Suppose you had had a gun, or even decided to fight back and you'd been killed? You can't know. A gun is no magic talisman. It's a hell of a lot better than nothing but it insures your safety no better than putting up a struggle unarmed would have. None of us are ninjas or "operators" and even those guys get killed. I think you did your best given your circumstances and where you were at that point in time. You were not a CIA trained assassin at that moment. Just a regular gal. You are doing very well on your road to recovery. You may yet have relapses. Just. Keep. Going. Forward!Groundhoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11989539152338872547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-86294669359126492272012-03-09T03:29:20.114-08:002012-03-09T03:29:20.114-08:00Oh my gosh Dan, I don't think your crazy...I t...Oh my gosh Dan, I don't think your crazy...I thank God for you. I would love to say that I am the exception, that I am the only one who was raised not to fight, but I am not. For the record it's not just a female thing, but teach them to fight if they have to. I think as long as there are lots of hugs and support and stability then they won't become paranoid and afraid. I know with my daughter, she is becoming more and more secure as she learns about protecting herself.<br /><br />Thank you for the supportive words!!!!agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-5147483750582146492012-03-09T03:25:33.524-08:002012-03-09T03:25:33.524-08:00This probably wasn't suppose to be funny, but ...This probably wasn't suppose to be funny, but it made me laugh. Fact is, I would like for my daughter to do her own killin'! But I want her to know that its ok. If someone comes after her, it is ok to protect herself and I also want her to know that the Calvary will be sent. If I am there, if there is any possible way, I will be there to fight for her!agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-21064638023494932542012-03-08T18:45:45.981-08:002012-03-08T18:45:45.981-08:00As a firearms instructor... I've trained a fai...As a firearms instructor... I've trained a fair number of women over the years who have been through attacks of varying degrees similar to you... I have learned a lot and have tried to pass it on as an instructor, husband, and father...<br /><br />Some might say I'm crazy, but I've taught my wife and daughter to fight dirty and fight hard... different martial arts are OK and guns are good at a distance, but when a 215 pound guy gets hold of a 130 pound gal... it's time to gouge the eyes... tear off the ears... rip the nostrils... bite... kick... scream...<br /><br />Those are harsh things to discuss with a teenage gal... I'm not sure they're the right things... but I'm trying hard as a father to let her know the reality of the world as she matures and is able to understand... to be prepared, but not paranoid...<br /><br />Your experience has allowed my gals to see once again that bad things happen to good people...<br /><br />As always... thank you for sharing...<br /><br />Dann in OhioGod, Gals, Guns, Grubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18289354729286002247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-85511660671339517082012-03-08T17:27:34.840-08:002012-03-08T17:27:34.840-08:00I'm sure your daughter doesn't feel neglec...I'm sure your daughter doesn't feel neglected or unable to trust/rely/count on you! I always knew I could count on my Dad for absolutely *everything-<i>else</i>* - but if it came down to that final extremity, I would just have to do my own killin'... And I'm very-very-very glad it hasn't! ;-)NotClauswitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14358707844087117280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-23827360610465701392012-03-08T16:57:35.703-08:002012-03-08T16:57:35.703-08:00I probably should have done something more, but I ...I probably should have done something more, but I just tossed it in the trash, unceremoniously.agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-59438926678606103442012-03-08T16:56:34.324-08:002012-03-08T16:56:34.324-08:00I have read this a couple of times...thank you.I have read this a couple of times...thank you.agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-46414483685074578282012-03-08T13:37:05.251-08:002012-03-08T13:37:05.251-08:00I've got some handy 2x4's in the garage, a...I've got some handy 2x4's in the garage, and can probably scare up some rusty nails and/or screws to bring to the party. Oh, and popcorn...nothing like a batch of hot buttered popcorn whilst teaching the values of right-vs-wrong to some scumbag arsewipe in a dark alley!RabidAlienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07035887632706442114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-84823488302069162512012-03-08T13:30:05.462-08:002012-03-08T13:30:05.462-08:00I think I knew what you meant. I am glad you love...I think I knew what you meant. I am glad you love your father! It was hard to hear the not being able to count on anyone...I hope my daughter doesn't feel that way. I hope someday she can learn to trust me and while she needs to take respsoibilty for her life, not at 8 or 9 and that taking responsibility doesn't mean there is no one to count on. She can count on me. Your words kicked me in the gut because it gave me insight into how she may be feeling and that hurt. It is important to hear from other people who have experienced similar things and while not everyone is going to feel the same way, it gives me things to think about. I really do appreciate your sharing and honesty. No worries either, I am not beating myself up or taking any steps back, I am just listening and learning and hopefully I will be able to use all that I learn to help my daughter.agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-86796802735222472432012-03-08T11:53:26.804-08:002012-03-08T11:53:26.804-08:00I should have been a bit more clear, because I lov...I should have been a bit more clear, because I love my Dad - but I was Nine and asked if he would <i>kill</i> to protect me/us, and I was challenging him - and his reply was that it was beyond all his Faith and religious training to do-so, that Jesus' life and teaching prevented him. So he had an "out," as it were, and growing up in the Church as a PK/MK I knew that and what it meant...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-63382882683191154712012-03-08T09:44:01.025-08:002012-03-08T09:44:01.025-08:00I think you know how much your words mean to me, b...I think you know how much your words mean to me, but I will say it publicly, thank you. I value your friendship ans support.agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-12967909403545441822012-03-08T09:42:55.914-08:002012-03-08T09:42:55.914-08:00I am learning those valuable lessons. Thank you.I am learning those valuable lessons. Thank you.agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-83299406889948213782012-03-08T09:42:09.935-08:002012-03-08T09:42:09.935-08:00Thank you. I know I say that a lot, but I truly m...Thank you. I know I say that a lot, but I truly mean it. Thank you.agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-21633117873060229352012-03-08T09:41:33.349-08:002012-03-08T09:41:33.349-08:00Just when I think I am done being emotional by the...Just when I think I am done being emotional by the kindness of others I read this. Your words are very touching. It is comforting to know you have my back and it's nice to k ow that I am getting the skills to have yours. Thank you.agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-42454427062557828412012-03-08T09:39:25.499-08:002012-03-08T09:39:25.499-08:00I don't mind you making it about you. It is a...I don't mind you making it about you. It is about you. It's about all of us. I will admit reading it stung a bit, but I am so glad you shared. I appreciate your candor.agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-86035713775666699402012-03-08T09:18:29.527-08:002012-03-08T09:18:29.527-08:00When I was a Missionary Kid and we lived in a far-...When I was a Missionary Kid and we lived in a far-off Asiatic-Type Foreign Hotter-than-Hell Country where we were the only ones of our type around and there were no conveniently located Embassies (or Marines) nearby, and sometimes the local population got a bit rambunctious but they usually only torched each others' mud-huts...sometimes I would get a bit anxious (like that time when we were on the Train and there was lots of banging on the locked compartment door and shouting, and then shooting started but it was just a smuggler, or the time when we were surrounded by an angry mob that shook our Jeep when we showed up at Children's Day Celebration - it was not for us Children however)... <br />So I asked my Dad (rather pointedly) about the kind of HELP I could expect to get from HIM in a Desperate-Type Situation (having already experienced what seemed to me a few), and yeh so OK, he's a Jesus-Pastor and a Love Thy Neighbor turn-the-other-cheek kinda guy, and a follower of Ghandi's non-violence - so in hindsight the answer might have been predictable once I put him On-the-SPOT -- but I was rather devastated when he told me that the 1st Cavalry would NOT be coming to MY Mount Calvary and I had my own cross to bear. That in all likelihood he himself would be struck down while praying to God to <i>forgive those who were doing us Evil</i>. That the Evil (or whatever) that was done to Me-the-Kid would not be responded-to with the Wrath of God/Dad. That violence of any sort was not The Way... <br />Yeh, devastating, especially for a 9-year old, and I'm sorry I made this rambling about me but maybe you daughter can relate: Adversity (and disappointment) develops independence, certain skillz, and self-reliance. Ever since that day when I <i>knew</i> I was on my own when the SHIT hit the fan, my thinking changed - especially when I was sent off alone some five hundred miles (you can hear the whistle blow) to Boarding School, and some (minor) shit happened there (fortunately long-past and dimming even further)... Being on your own and <i>KNOWING</i> *that* changes things internally, but I still had (and have) to un-learn a certain level of passivity that had been religiously indoctrinated. And so did YOU. And you're better now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-81196828330876131302012-03-08T08:04:32.023-08:002012-03-08T08:04:32.023-08:00Not only are you learning from your experience (I ...Not only are you learning from your experience (I would hesitate to call it a mistake), but you are sharing your knowledge and experience and that is helping others.... turning something bad into something good... from lemons to lemonade. Take care.Broken Andyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01562569871940946226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-42974538408742177852012-03-08T07:56:50.016-08:002012-03-08T07:56:50.016-08:00Ma'am, you are a good person, you were before,...Ma'am, you are a good person, you were before, you are now. He's the evil one. You found yourself in a circumstance in which you were ambushed. It's happened to Platoons of Soldiers and Marines who are taught from day one, "Stay Alert, Stay Alive." You responded to that ambush according to your life training. You have new life training now. And because you are now part of this Tribe, you also now have people to your left and right you can look to for support. Always. Your husband is there, and we are here to offer you what we have. This We'll Defend.TinCan Assassinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01680618418991333460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-7939887149979065412012-03-08T05:40:48.049-08:002012-03-08T05:40:48.049-08:00What happened is in the past. It can't be und...What happened is in the past. It can't be undone. And as painful as it seems it is now a part of the creation of who you are now. That new person, while suffering, is also moving towards an understanding that has a chance of profoundly affecting others for the good.ProudHillbillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14305205710265854978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-44152054853810984102012-03-08T05:24:31.842-08:002012-03-08T05:24:31.842-08:00Things happen in our lives we don't always con...Things happen in our lives we don't always control. Each time, we make choices. You chose that day based upon your beliefs, skills, and what you thought was the right thing to do. You said before that you were taught to 'give them what they want' and you did that thinking it would help protect you and your daughter.<br /><br />But as mentioned already, he still took what he wanted. However, you got a lot in return. You gained knowledge, new skills, confidence, a ferocity you didn't know you had, and a desire to never be forced to give in.<br /><br />For better or for worse, our past makes us who we are today. We all have things in our past that we regret or wish we could redo. However, in doing so, you'd lose who you are now. I think we can all safely say that you are a much stronger and more confident woman than you were the day before that attack.<br /><br />You've learned from this. Your children have learned from this, even though it is a hard lesson at that age. Use it to remind them that they can and should protect themselves however they can. That lesson, however hard to learn, will serve them (and you) well for the future.<br /><br />Your actions since that day serve as an inspiration to everybody, not just women, on how you can still be yourself, but also be willing to do what it takes to live happily and safely.Paul Ericksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14461743782613179714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1577008135895208329.post-22160902933467123572012-03-08T03:54:51.760-08:002012-03-08T03:54:51.760-08:00It means a lot that you are proud of me. To have ...It means a lot that you are proud of me. To have support like I have had means the everything. Thank you!agirlandhergunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08369419666474343639noreply@blogger.com